Since 2018 I have been writing, or reading affirmations to myself daily.
I’m not sure who will read this. But I wanted it to be archived, for my own benefit.
The inspiration came from a book that we read and… didn’t really like. But the theory of affirmations is that to become someone different, we have to visualise ourselves as being that different person, and then convince ourselves that it’s true.
This is where the affirmations as they are now. I sometimes update them, as my life goals change, and I also keep track of that below.
The foundational rules inform everything else.
- I obey my own golden rule: I always strive to be a person I’d look up to.
- I start fresh every day. I’m not a slave to my past. I can’t change the past and have limited influence on the future, but I can change right now.
I Have a Great Attitude
These are affirmations related to my attitude to life — my inner qualities.
- I know and am proud of who I am. Of the things I do, the decisions I make, and the way I live.
- I deserve to be happy and to have good things in my life.
- I know my own shortcomings and try to improve on them, without judgment.
- I am, or am not yet (but am becoming), excellent at a wide variety of things important to me. More than a “jack of all trades”, I’m a “master of all trades”.
- I am a positive person. I can do anything, and shock people by how quickly and well I do it. (I’ve even started to see positivity in harder times.)
- I always do the hard things first.
- I plan and work ahead, dealing with critical things before they inevitably become urgent.
- I am honest with myself about my own personal challenges and work on them.
- I remain calm and happy in high-stress situations.
- I am disciplined, tidy and organised.
- I am accepting of everyone, including myself, and non-judgmental.
I Behave Like a Superhuman
- I am extremely fit, hitting athlete-levels of fitness through sheer willpower. I always am in the top 5% of fitness for my age level.
- I speak many languages and learn them easily, remembering everything, speaking well.
- I am reliable and 100% trustworthy.
- I am present and focused in everything I do, trained through meditation.
- I practise equanimity. The undulations of life don’t perturb me.
- I am always in control, and only eat, say, and do exactly what I want.
- I am a solid sleeper. I can sleep anywhere, and on command.
I Work Honestly and Make Enough
- I help others through my business and life.
- I lead people, only when needed, and as a service.
- I have 100% integrity, and always do what I know to be right.
- I constantly strive for excellence.
- I make money easily, transforming ideas into cash, but never aspire for excess.
I Learn and Achieve Many Things
- I have mastered a range of martial arts, art forms, and dance through years of practise.
- I have, through training, developed excellent short- and long-term memory.
- I have travelled through many countries, and connected with many cultures.
- I live near nature and visit it regularly.
- I am happy with what I own in life, and don’t lust for more.
I have nourishing relationships
- I treat everyone with equality and respect.
- I express emotions and say things that people value when it’s easy, like “I really admire you,” or “I’m sorry”.
- I regularly see my closest friends and family.
How My Affirmations Have Changed Over Time
The affirmations started as a simple list of how I wanted my life to be. I thought: what’s important to me? Where do I want to get to? These were my goals.
In the beginning of 2018, I began writing down every day that my goals were:
- Learn 7-10 more languages
- Traverse every continent
- Have a well-rounded family with well-educated children
- Master a suite of skills in adventure sports, martial arts and dance
- Have a fleet of adventure vehicles on tap
- Get to epic fitness levels, with a ‘total’ of 1100 lbs and ripped (even in suboptimal lighting…)
- Have bases in three continents (Australia, Asia & Europe)
Sounds great already. But since I first wrote them, a few things changed:
- The list got longer!
- The list became more about other people than myself. For example, I noted along the way that I really wanted to spend more time with people I loved, and with my family. I’d orient my life around that.
- I introduced character type goals. For example, being known as someone trustworthy.
- I eliminated goals of owning things, and made it more about happiness with what I have.
- I learned that life is stressful, and that I must develop equanimity.
I also realised I’m not going to have my own children (after asking myself these difficult questions). So there are no goals for a family that’s proud of me on that list.