Freedom after leaving the Baha'i faith

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  1. Where do your graphics come from? They are very effective. I don’t see any credits.

  2. Nat Tuivavalagi says:

    Thank you very much for sharing your experiences. Greatly appreciated indeed. I am not a Bahai but I see Bahai as an advanced “religious/ faith system” in terms of its theology, inclusivity etc. You mentioned that your problem is that you were not able to believe it. What aspect of the Bahai faith/system you have problem in believing? To be a member of a “religious faith system” you don’t have to believe ALL the articles of faith that they made up or come up with. I find it a pity if you have to give up a beautiful and effective system simply because you cannot believe in all its aspects. Sounds like a case of “throwing out the baby with the wastewater” to me. I think 100% of Christians don’t believe or don’t even care to know all Christian beliefs and teachings but this is not justification to leave Christianity. Nevertheless one is totally free to leave or resign from Bahai or Christianity or whatever faith/system but I am just puzzled by your reasoning for leaving what I consider as an advanced, effective, and beautiful faith/system.

    1. By saying I didn’t “believe” I meant I didn’t fundamentally believe in the concept of “God” or a “Messenger” that the Baha’i Faith proposes. This is super fundamental and I don’t think I could call myself a Baha’i without those. It’s in the first paragraph of the Baha’i Faith’s most holy book — the “first duty”, if you look up that part.

      I accept what you say — a lot of the stuff (not all of it, things I mentioned above that I find abhorrent) in the Baha’i Faith teaches makes sense — I mentioned a few things I like. It is even, like you suggest, a pretty good community system — many Baha’is I know are quite community minded and detached from worldly things like lusting after wealth or power. I still like those things and act that way (my friends tell me I still seem and sound Baha’i), but without the core beliefs I think I’d be lying to people and to myself if I stayed within it.

  3. I like this.
    I grew up as a bahai.
    We moved to a village in China as pilgrims when I was 12.
    We lived in Haifa for 5 years. I did eight grade to high school graduation there.
    I lived through religious abuse and am recovering, slowly.
    I left the religion when I went to college and realized I couldn’t accept the closed mindedness of the religion.
    The way I was raised I never learned to think for myself. I was taught magical thinking. I was told I was depressed because I didn’t pray enough. I was anorexic and my parents didn’t get me treatment. They prayed about it.
    I could go on. As you did here.
    It’s nice to find a very logical explanation of reasons for leaving or at least for not blindly following the faith.
    It’s okay to question things and if you aren’t allowed to question get the fuck out of whatever it is.
    Some people will think you are toxic to their souls. This is what I was taught. Anybody that knows of the truth and goes against it is a covenant breaker and you should stay away from them as they can damage your soul.
    I obviously don’t believe that.
    I appreciate you for doing this.

    1. I’m sorry for what you went through! It sounds like you had a particularly challenging run. A pilgrim family and having lived in Haifa would make it particularly hard to find yourself. I’m glad you found my post, and that you’re finding yourself. Please feel free to email me if you want to talk more in private.